The moment the question peeps into your mind that ‘how do you know you are in love’ is one of the most sweetest time in anyone’s life. The dilemma of whether you love or not is the crucial time for anyone to take a right decision. The nervousness makes it more difficult to decide if you are in love or not? Whether the person is your friend or the new one who has your crush fell in is not a matter. The feelings will be similar in both cases.
The Differences between Love and Crush
Once I wrote an article on the real love detailing its definition and featuring and every related idea on the topic. You can get an insight here. What is real love? Love is not a descriptive word to describe but a word to feel from the core of your heart. Although, the feelings is totally new and beyond to get it in the very first love and first proposal, you may get some idea by reading this extensive write-up (don’t miss it).
Let’s now go to get the idea about the differences between love and crush:
Love: is definitive in terms of:
Crush may be defined as:
- Fun rather than getting close
- Time being
- Multiple and so on
These subtle points can fix if you are in love or in crush. Try to find out the answers for the questions below to get more about if you are in love or in crush or just in the time being feelings.
|Questions||Write answer: Yes or Not|
|When you hold his/her hands you feel secured and safe|
|When you hold his/her hands, you feel shy and nervous|
|You think of him or her once and occasionally|
|You think of him or her now and then and without much reason|
|You become worry about his or her meal or daily activities|
|You just don’t care of this daily activities|
The more the answer is ‘YES’ the more of possibility that you are in love with the person you are in and the vice versa.
What Research Says: How Do You Know You are in Love?
This part of the article will have an insight on how to know if you are in really love with the person you are on. This part will be an analysis on what research says about this type of feeling and psychological facts of love.
1. What Brain Signals You
Research says that when you are in love with someone, your brain signals it through a particular hormones because the psychologists say that love has a great power to change your brain. The part of the brain is enriched with dopamine gets the signs from the brain by euphoria that brings you connected to the particular behavior of being with that person. When people start to fall in love in the very early stage, gets a hint from anterior cinglate area of the brain. (Aron, Fisher, Mashek, Strong, & Brown, 2005).
2. You Always Want Your Family to Like Him/ Her
It is one of the basic ways to know if you are in love with that person. This love feeling is called ‘Marshal Support’ found in the new research conducted by (Patrick & Faw, 2014). The belief is that that your surroundings play a great role in making the relationship successful and so your brain signals you to ensure that you have achieved that insurance beforehand of the relationship.
3. You Taste Your Parson’s Triumphs
No matter what you have done or if even you have failed but you get an immense pleasure and celebrate your person’s triumph without any hesitation. This proofs that you are in love with that person. Lockwood & Pinkus (2014) study claims this issue. They admit that when people are in a romantic relationship or going to fall in this type of relationship, they feel superior to each others success and celebrate it rather feeling inferior for his or her own failure.
4. Both of You Have a Positive Feelings
When you are in really love with someone there must have an equal payback from you person. There are many studies that find that a romantic relationship is basically depend on the reciprocal likings and feelings that means you both truly feel each other equally Riela, Rodriguez, Aron, Xu, & Acevedo, 2010).
5. You Badly Miss the Person
No matter if is a bad time or good time, you feel the person badly who you are attached with. This feeling will give you the answer if you are in love or not. Read the research conducted by Le and Colleagues in 2008 which show an intense commitment to each other arising from the good relationship.
6. You are Jealous, not Suspicious
It is common that you get jealous when you find your loved person with an opposite sex . But, is it the suspicion? No. Research says that a particular type of jealousy is healthy and it is not toxic anyway. It has a great evolutionary perspective which says that this type of jealousy brings the two people to each other avoiding any risk or threatens beforehand. Rydell, McConnell, & Bringle in 2004 found this evident in their research. But, the people who are engaged into in suspicious jealousy, get the relationship worsened by day which brings only the negative impact on the mental state of both the people.
I believe, after going through this article, you will start to solve the question of how do you know ou are in love with someone. Think first. Decide later.
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