I am reminded of a ‘Chinese Proverb’ for the topic mentioned above:
“Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.”– Vincent Van Gogh.
‘New Year’ implies a period immediately before and after 31st December. On the other hand, ‘Resolution’ means a firm decision to do or not to do something.
Now, if we enjoin the two definitions, it forms an opinion that before and after the 31stof December, the aficionados usually make a firm decision about doing something or not. Whenever I hear someone making resolutions for the ‘New Year’, I typically smile to myself thinking about the famous quote, “promises are meant to be broken.”
Nevertheless, before the new year approaches, the aficionados browse through hundreds of websites that give them sound ideas about healthy relationships and so the aficionados, either to impose their importance or to impress people around them, end up making promises to themselves or their beloved family, friends, spouses, girlfriends/ boyfriends, which go on until the year ends; but when the reality of life takes its toll, most of the people forget about their so-called resolutions and move forward in life, which may be due to unavoidable circumstances or because of rough patches in life.
In the process of making ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ and to make ‘Healthy Relationships’ work, we tend to forget the pros and cons of living with our significant other. On the other hand, we as human beings, have a tendency to get so blinded by our love that we most importantly forget ourselves.
I personally believe that before we indulge in making ‘New Year’s Resolution for ‘Healthy Relationships’, we should trail on 5 simple steps to thrive with New Year’s resolution for healthy relationships below:
It infers to the positive and negative qualities we have in us as humans. Take some time out and think about your likes and dislikes, hobbies, qualities that you want in your partner; what you enjoy doing and what matters to you most in your life; your ambitions/goals, etc. The reason is if we keep on looking out of the windows, many of us take forever to realize that we are looking at ourselves mirrored back to us by others and the events of our life. If we see that our negative feelings towards others are reflecting back to ourselves, then we can do something to help ourselves move forward. Changing our perception of the problem by seeing the reality as it is reflected by us and to us brings empowerment, change, discovery, and consciousness.
When you are approached with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than the former, or at least, return it equally. Greetings to one another bring unity as we live happily in harmony, in peace, and it also displays your attention and affection towards your significant other, children, parents, or friends. On the other hand, if any, of the partners greets him/her with a smile the chances of becoming a tyrant are reduced; there is respect for one another and the relationships are not taken for granted. Greet can even be a simple hug with your partner at the dawn of the New Year that can pour you with love rain.
3. Express Your Feelings
Our success as a species and as individuals depends upon our ability to effectively communicate, both verbally and non-verbally. Understanding the different aspects of verbal and non-verbal communication and the important roles they play in our interactions with others are the first steps so as to enhance positive communication and nurture relationships. Most of us are aware of ‘Verbal communication’ but ‘Nonverbal communication’ includes body language, such as gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, and posture. Verbal communication is enhanced when a person is an effective listener. Take the time to think before you speak to ensure that you articulate yourself. Watching other people’s body language, facial expressions, intonations, and being conscious of your own physicality and feelings can enhance non-verbal communication. Especially after marriage, couples become so engrossed in their respective lives and its chores that they forget or feel shy to express their emotional state and thus get deprived of the most beautiful feeling in the face of this earth: Love. Take this chance to thrive for your New Year resolution for a healthy relationship.
“Each step you take reveals a new horizon. You have taken the first step today. Now, I challenge you to take another.”– Dan Poynter
4. Respect and Understanding
Choose your words carefully because once a bullet is fired it cannot be taken back. Acknowledge contributions, be it small or big, and appreciate them; compromise and be willing to end misunderstandings; be emphatic and show consideration; admit to your mistake if you think you are wrong and last but not the least, use two magical sentences and mean them, ‘I am sorry’ and ‘ I love you.’ Put your whole belief and respect for your partner and invest your highest understating power to get him or her.
5. At last
Do not lie to yourself and make a resolution just to impress your mate, rather make a resolution with utmost sincerity that touches your partner’s heart and soul and that is easy to pursue.
Now, after reading this article if you think you can, follow the aforementioned 5 simple steps to thrive with a New Year resolution that you are going to make for healthy relationship. You are actually ready and well-prepared to make resolutions for the forthcoming ‘New Year’ and you sincerely want your relationship to work wonders and thus end up happily with your soul-mate.